In the past nine to ten months, I’ve discovered I wrote the struggles of one of my characters in my most recently finished novella (first draft) are similar to my own personal life struggles.
It was written without my realizing this.
Somehow, we writers must translate what is in our hearts and minds and the difficult circumstances we may be facing in our lives, onto the Word document we’re typing regarding the situations our main character or characters are facing.
Is it part of a healing process?
As we authors know, writing is cathartic. And from the wellness paper I wrote back in college, writing in a journal or creating fiction heals trauma victims, as well.
Continually writing new stories and characters, I believe, we learn more about ourselves and others, and it helps us to grow in every way that counts: spiritually and mentally.
You learn to truly understand yourself and other people.
Literally, when I first started writing again in 2014, the first story I started to write was loosely based on my late teen/early twenties years, and a past romantic relationship I’d seen from my viewpoint and feelings for decades revealed I’d been myopic in my understanding our the relationship. I’d finally realized my former boyfriend’s point of view/side. It had been a great revelation and brought me clarity and peace.
Writing gives balance to an author’s real life.
Authors, leaf through your works and glimpse any areas where you see yourself partially in your main character or other characters and what situations may have mirrored your own presently or in the past.
Check out my newest interview beautifully done by fellow blogger Robin Rice here.
A short excerpt:
What inspired you to start writing? Ever since grade school, I had a natural inclination to write stories, with a big imagination. I daydreamed a lot. But what makes my ability to write so extraordinary was that I hated to read and had reading comprehension problems through elementary and secondary schools. Still, somehow I could write, for the most part, grammatically correctly. Thankfully, I could also spell pretty well. I believe watching TV shows and movies were my inspiration to be able to write. It goes along with my being a visual learner, seeing the scenes in which my characters are within, like a movie in my head.
How long have you been writing? If I include the works I wrote in my early teens through my mid-twenties and since starting back up in 2014, it would be about fifteen years.
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If you’ve followed the medical history of my youngest son, Christopher, you’ll understand what I’ve got to say now much more. In any case, if you aren’t up on his history, a little tidbit of info on this for the past fifteen years can be found in my blog post, Maternal Moxie: Tenacious Moms of Special Needs Kids.
This morning, I took Christopher for his every-two-year MRI scan. It is to check on the remnant of a brain tumor attached to his brainstem since he was diagnosed with it at 13 months old. Surgeries and radiation therapy followed, the latter to try and stop regrowth. Since 2007, the tumor has been lying dormant, thank God.
There was a scare in the fall of 2008 that the tumor and the cyst it creates had grown a tad. I had to return with Christopher for another MRI scan the next month to make sure before starting up a long, dreadful year of chemotherapy, that he’d been able to avoid all those years.
Feeling desperate, I turned to the Saints of my church. Something I’d never done up to that point. I asked the Panagia (Virgin Mary/Mother of God), Saint John the Wonderworker of Shanghai and San Francisco, and Saint Nektarios to pray for my son.
Within 15-30 minutes, I felt the heaviness sitting on my shoulders be literally lifted off of them and has never returned. I felt at peace.
The next month, I took Christopher in for the MRI scan. The doctor came back to tell me that, for some reason, the tumor had shrunk back a bit, as well as the cyst. He didn’t know why, but I did. The Saints had and still pray for my son, and the prayers of the righteous are powerful!
Since then, the tumor has been stable and dormant, thank God.
Today, I was hoping for the same result.
But that’s not what I got this go around.
Via my Facebook post this morning (minus one of the MRI scanned photos):
First and foremost, Glory to God. The oncologist said that the portion of the brain tumor that has been attached to Christopher’s brainstorm for just over fifteen years has disappeared/gone away!
However, he said he and the radiologists may need a closer look on that at some point, but still, it’s not there on the scan!
Here are the two pics from 2013 scan to today’s. The first picture shows the white portion next to the gray section in the middle of the head is the remaining tumor back in 2013. Today’s scan — the picture on the right— doesn’t show it there anymore!
Having said that, the doctor said Christopher will be getting scans every 3 years for the rest of his life, due to the damage of the radiation that can cause benign tumors outside the brain. However, those are easier to remove!
Along with this, he’s referring Christopher for a multi-disciplinary clinic check up for him transitioning to adulthood. So, he’ll see a neuro-psychologist, endocrinologist, and rehab specialist to check his ability to drive and other things. He’s also being referred to “plastics” (what the doctor called it) to discuss working on his face through nerve work to even out his face. The left side of his face droops a bit and is partially paralyzed (with 7th nerve palsy in his left eye, with an eyelid that doesn’t totally close, and severe hearing loss in his left ear).
Of course, at first Christopher said he wasn’t interested in facial plastic surgery (basically what I’m thinking the doctor meant by “plastics”) because he doesn’t want scars. The oncologist explained there won’t be any scars. That’s what “plastics” does and gets rid of. Ha ha!
Nevertheless, the oncologist told him he can say, “No” after meeting with the “plastics” doctor if he still doesn’t want to do that. 🙂
Also, the nurse put in a referral to an ophthalmologist/eye doctor per the oncologist’s recommendation. I’m very happy about this, because I wasn’t sure who to go to for this. He’s overdue for an eye check.
The third picture farthest to the right is damage on the left side, lower portion of his brain from the tumor, surgeries and radiation that is lit up in white. But the oncologist said the thinking portion on the top and upper portions of his brain look good and are okay, thank God.
Again, this is the best news we’ve gotten on Christopher’s tumor since years ago when it was stabilized. Thank God!