How Do You Get the Words on Paper? Return to Writing

A couple of days ago, I was on the phone with a dear friend. She works in theater and has written her own plays in the past few years that she also directed that were performed at the local theater of which she was a member.

Unfortunately, some serious family health issues came about for her family a few years ago, and it’s been extremely stressful and emotionally draining for her and her family.

She’s not been able to continue the goals she had set for herself since then but is patiently waiting for a time where theater work and going back to school can re-enter her life.

I know how hard it is to go through and cope with a sick family member and the stress and strain it puts on both your mental and physical health.

My friend does need a healthy outlet that gives her a short window of time to herself. It’s important for her own health.

So she texted me yesterday using a voice message, that she’d attended a board meeting at the local theater she is now connected to (don’t know how long and when she started up with this particular one), and they were discussing upcoming events for the summer and short, one-act plays.

She’d actually brought this up to me a few days ago, and I will maybe do another blog post on my own plays, but this post is about picking up writing after serious life events takes up all your free time and energy.

She’d told me in our last conversation that she’d lost her creativity and didn’t know how to regenerate it. She asked me how I do so in my writing.

I told her I hadn’t written from the time I married in 1997 until 2014. A very long hiatus because of family life and health issues of my youngest son replacing any creative writing ideas and even thoughts.

But my writing returned when it was the right time for me in my life. God’s time. And it brought me through a lot of emotional hardships. I began to rediscover who I truly was, found catharsis and healing through these years, and continue to find content and healing in my writing.

My advice to her, using my own method, was to jot down notes of what she was wanting to write about. The characters, plot, and have a beginning and end in mind so that you are more likely to be able to finish your play or story.

Yes, I’ve struggled through the ideas of characters, scenes, etc. for upcoming chapters in a current work-in-progress, as well as on potential stories that swirled in my mind for a couple days that I hadn’t yet written any notes for. And even when I know what I want to say and how the scene will play out, there are times I can’t get anything down on the Word document or paper.

The answer to this is to just start typing whatever comes out in creating your scene and chapter. Eventually, about halfway down the first page, you become engrossed in your characters and what they’re doing in the scene, and you are able to complete at least that scene or even a full chapter.

This has worked for me every single time I’ve done it.

My friend had told me she hasn’t even been able to write down simple little poems she usually can do quite easily.

I told her to think of her writing as an escape from her stressful current reality to a realm where she can immerse herself for a time to find solace, creativity, and contentment for that short period. It will help her feel a sense of joy and a quiet moment to herself.

She’ll be creating as she’s wanted to do, and at the same time, experience relief from stress, which will help her overall health.

I’m sure I’ve written a few blogs already on the difficulties of getting back into writing after short or long dry periods, but I felt compelled to write this today after having the talk with my dear friend.

If you are having troubles writing caused by whatever events or obstacles in your life, remember that you can find a window to that creative side of you.

Try reading material you’ve already written to prime the pump in getting ideas to flow inside your mind and heart that will translate to writing on your computer or paper.

These strategies of mine always work for me. I hope it does for you too.

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The Magic and Mystery Inside of Writing the Struggles and Dilemmas of Your Fictional Characters

In the past nine to ten months, I’ve discovered I wrote the struggles of one of my characters in my most recently finished novella (first draft) are similar to my own personal life struggles.

It was written without my realizing this.

Somehow, we writers must translate what is in our hearts and minds and the difficult circumstances we may be facing in our lives, onto the Word document we’re typing regarding the situations our main character or characters are facing.

Is it part of a healing process?

As we authors know, writing is cathartic. And from the wellness paper I wrote back in college, writing in a journal or creating fiction heals trauma victims, as well.

Continually writing new stories and characters, I believe, we learn more about ourselves and others, and it helps us to grow in every way that counts: spiritually and mentally.

You learn to truly understand yourself and other people.

Literally, when I first started writing again in 2014, the first story I started to write was loosely based on my late teen/early twenties years, and a past romantic relationship I’d seen from my viewpoint and feelings for decades revealed I’d been myopic in my understanding our the relationship. I’d finally realized my former boyfriend’s point of view/side. It had been a great revelation and brought me clarity and peace.

Writing gives balance to an author’s real life.

Authors, leaf through your works and glimpse any areas where you see yourself partially in your main character or other characters and what situations may have mirrored your own presently or in the past.

What did you learn from your writing?

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What Are You Worth?

Self-worth and having love for yourself, not in an egotistical way but in a way you understand you are created in His Image and greatly valued by Him is incredibly crucial on how you navigate through your life. 

If you don’t believe you’re worth anything and don’t love yourself and blame yourself for the majority of conflicts or events in your life, it can affect you emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually, causing you to be swept along the rough seas, struggling, treading water to sustain yourself in some manner. 

But if you believe you’re valued and worth as much as anyone else, your life most likely will take the path of a healthy view of all you experience, an inner strength, and true understanding of love.

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