Life in a Different Era

Today’s my birthday and thought I’d share some memories of my childhood. It does seem like a lifetime ago and definitely a different era.

Growing up, I was in the generation of kids that would come home from school and go outside and play all the rest of the day until around dinner time. And on weekends, all day playing with my friends mostly outside until dark.

There was a freedom then that is sadly missing in my youngest son’s generation and the generation of young ones after his today.

I would hop on my bike and ride all over the place around my neighborhood and sometimes to my friends’ neighborhoods that were a ways off from my own.

Riding on a bike was always such a freeing feeling. The wind streaming through your hair, brushing your face. A calming feeling as well. When you’d peddle fast, you felt like nobody could touch you, nobody could reach you, that you were almost invincible.

I had the popular banana seat bike with the looped handlebars. I had a blue one. 🙂

(example of banana seat bike via public domain pics on Google)

Lots of games to play outside, too, like hide and go seek, tag, ghost in the graveyard, and bloody murder. The last one I played with a whole stairwell of kids (two apartment buildings connected on Rhein Main Air Base in Germany).

Whenever I’d say to whoever I was talking to that we played bloody murder, the person wouldn’t know what that was. It’s basically the opposite of hide and go seek. The murderer hides and the people go around a particular large object. The murderer will wait until he/she has the best shot at tagging one of his/her victims by surprising them quietly. The person who sees the murderer coming for him/her yells, “Bloody murder!” and everyone screams and runs around the large object to base, which is the safe spot for everyone. Also, you can’t turn around and go back to base. You must continue running around the same direction and get to the base that way. It was a fun game. 🙂

I grew up playing with Fisher Price Little People and Barbies.

But at a certain point, our mom made us (my sister and I) choose which sets of toys we wanted to keep because we just had too many. lol So we chose Barbies.

We had so many awesome Barbies, and ones that were famous celebrities, too!

*Dolly Parton

*Jamie Somers (Bionic Woman)

*Cheryl Ladd (Charlie’s Angels)

*Kate Jackson (Charlie’s Angels)

*Steve Austin (the Six Million Dollar Man)

*Cher

*The Archies (from the comics) characters

My sister and I made up such elaborate stories with our Barbies’ lives. lol Surviving a Tornado, a murderer on the loose, a dying relative (or the main Barbie dying of an illness), big families with lots of kids.

I was around for the introduction of the Atari system.

We owned:

Centipede, Demon Attack, Frogger, Pitfall, Kaboom!, Keystone Cops, Enduro, Maze Craze, and Asteroids. And probably others I’ve forgotten to mention here.

My first video game was a miniature video arcade game that was small enough to set on your lap and play in the car (like I did) or in your room, or whatever. It was portable. The game was, of course, Pac-Man. Ha ha!

I was also around for the introduction of the Rubik’s Cube. That was so much fun trying to figure out then. I don’t recall ever really solving it, but maybe I did. Just don’t remember!

Times were simpler then. When your family would go on road trips, your sibling and you would sit in the back seat playing card games like Crazy Eights, or Barbies, or look outside the window at the trees going by, or follow the telephone lines as they undulated soothingly up and down.

In my grade school years, while in the car, my parents would be playing their eight tracks of Johnny Cash, Dolly Parton, and others. Later, at home we’d listen to the music on the stereo Mom would play from her favorites, the BeeGees and ABBA.

We had a pet Gerbil named Lucy when I was in grade school. My dad used to sing the Beatles song, “Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds” to her. Hee hee. It was fun.

Board games were big in my house. Sorry, Life, Clue, were the main ones.

In late grade school, junior high, and high school, my family would play poker, rummy, Tripoli, and Trivial Pursuit. My dad won every time in Trivial Pursuit. lol

Going to the roller rink in sixth grade was a big deal. It was so much fun skating around the rink on those four cushy, fat wheels. The best part of the evening on the rink was when they’d shut off the regular lights and leave on the colored lights that would flicker around the floor. Then they’d play “The Hokey Pokey” with those flashing lights, and we’d do the dance.

As I was typing here, I must tell you what happened this evening.

My oldest son, Nicholas, and his best friend Alex, took me to Olive Garden for dinner. It was delicious. And I even splurged and had a slice of cheesecake! They treated me, and I thanked them!

Then we came home, and I was on my computer starting this blog, when my youngest son, Christopher, came home early from filling in for a coworker at his job. See, he wasn’t supposed to work today, but a coworker was asking him if he could fill his shift. So, Christopher, always so good at being dependable and helpful, went ahead and took the 4:30 p.m.-11:00 p.m. shift.

However, he came home around 8:00 or so. He came up to my room and dropped his backpack and looked sad. I was worried something had happened at work. He came over to me and gave me a hug. He broke down in tears and said he felt terrible working on my birthday. He cried at work, and they let him off early, at 7:30. I told him it was fine. It’s all right.

I was so touched.

He said in tears, “I didn’t even get to give you a hug goodbye before I went to work.”

I told him I understood.

Well, he said, “And I got you a present.”

Again, I was moved by this.

He went into the hallway outside of my room and brought in a comfy little solid and soft back rest to put against the head board of my bed. And I love it!

I told him it was so kind and thoughtful of him. I’d never forget this special gift. It was so practical and thoughtful! He knows I tend to sit here at times and type. And here he went to Target after work and bought this for me! What a sweetheart! I hugged him and told him I loved him and thanked him for his kind and thoughtful gift, once again.

I had him take a picture of me using it so I could share it with you all. 🙂

A very special birthday today. I feel completely loved and blessed. Thank you, God for my family and my life!

Engage in These Books’ Characters’ Lives

Reviews from each of my four books shown in the picture above.

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Deeply emotional women’s fiction…

In a race against time to save her nephew, Marina travels to Greece to recover a family heirloom that has healing properties but finds something more valuable instead. This book is a heartbreaking tale of faith, family, and freedom. It’s also a story about self-discovery. I thoroughly enjoyed Passage of Promise. As one who has an overbearing family, I could relate. Dorothy Robey pens a beautiful women’s fiction with descriptive narration, engaging characters, and the breathtaking scenery of Greece.

Like in her other books, Dorothy Robey writes descriptive narration so immersive, you can smell the salt air. Such detail is hard to come by these days, but Dorothy Robey will stimulate all five of your senses.

The plot moves at a nice easy pace as the story unfolds. The writing is emotional and really connects the reader to the story. I’m fast becoming a fan of this author’s writing. It’s all about life’s journeys and self-discovery.

The characters are written so well, by the end, you won’t want to let go. I connected with Marina instantly. Her distressing situation tore my heart out of my chest. The hopelessness she feels, the hope returning, all play a huge role in Passage of Promise.

If you’re looking for a deeply emotional women’s fiction, pick up this book. Fans of Eat, Pray, Love will love this book. I strongly recommend this book.

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ A heartfelt story you’ve gotta check out!

When at life’s crossroads, it’s best to go where you’ve never been before. Painted With Good Intentions is a heartfelt story of one woman’s journey to rediscover her spiritual path. From the first page until the last, I couldn’t put it down. With descriptive narration, characters you’ll relate to, and a poignant spiritual message, this book is wondrous.

Let’s start with the descriptive narration. It’s immersive and filled with emotion. Every scene is beautifully described. The setting is Greece and I truly felt like I was there and experienced everything Christina went through. I could close my eyes and envision everything.

The characters are emotive and leap from the page, especially Christina and Nathan. The chemistry between Christina and Nathan is electric but realistic. Both are wary of love due to broken hearts but their passion for art soon takes over. I kept rooting for them to give it a go.

The plot moves at a good pace. The writing is so lovely with a perfect blend of spirituality without being preachy, romance, and healing from past hurts. There’s enough conflict to please any reader. I can’t wait to read more from this author.

If you’re looking for a book worth reading, pick up Painted with Good Intentions. I strongly recommend this book to any reader.

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Engaging story with complex characters

Three sisters, each with their own unique traits and troubles. Each one of them on a journey of discovery. The beautiful prose takes us on the journey with them, sometimes unraveling what they believed was true, but ultimately bringing each of them to a greater understanding of who they are and their relationship with each other.

The story will keep you engaged, turning pages to find out what happens next with these compelling, complex, and well-defined characters. Their voices are distinct, and you’ll find yourself relating to each of them in different ways.

There are some serious topics explored, but the author handles them with sensitivity.

You’ll find yourself pondering the story long after you turn the last page. I highly recommend.

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Uplifting, engaging book

Lovely, fast paced story. A tale of love and loss, mourning and the return to a full life through others. A deep love between two people can have many expressions, and D. Anna’s book traces how such love cannot be lost but honored in a new way toward others. An uplifting message, and engaging story.

Relationships in Shakespeare’s Era and Today

orsino and viola

(Orsino & Viola by Frederick Richard Pickersgill)

Although human nature tends to be consistent in how it behaves and interacts in various relationships, such as between siblings and in romantic connections, an analysis can show how these relationships in cultures through the Elizabethan period in which Shakespeare reflects in his works, to the current era, have changed and how they’ve relatively stayed the same.

In Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night, the play reflects the Elizabethan culture of its time in how women were considered of lesser stature than men (Sharnette), the roles of the upper class and the commoners, and how it is centered around the festival of the twelve days of Christmas, even named after the twelfth night on the eve of Epiphany Day (“Twelfth Night”).

The theme of relationships is essential to Shakespeare’s play, Twelfth Night, because it demonstrates masking of the characters’ true identities causes confusion until their true selves are revealed. Once they no longer hide who they are, this brings about strengthening and growing romantic relationships for characters, Viola, Orsino, Olivia, and Sebastian. But it also produces the painful recognition of one’s own delusions of self-importance and unreciprocated love in the case of the character, Malvolio. These interactions can be seen in any generation of the history of human relationships.

In Shakespeare’s time, women were considered emotionally and physically weak and required the care of male relatives or husbands.  They were property of men and were expected to grow up to become wives and mothers with no other ambitions.  Those women who were able to work outside the home were employed in domestic occupations, such as maids or cooks.  They were not permitted to be lawyers, doctors, or politicians.  In addition, women were not permitted to be actors on stage (Sharnette).

The prohibition of women holding any jobs held by men is apparent in Shakespeare’s plays where women dressed as men in order to get jobs men possessed, such as Viola’s disguising herself as Duke Orsino’s young page.  The relationships between men and women and how they interact with each other are paramount in Shakespeare’s works.

In Shakespeare’s era, the twelfth night or eve of Epiphany was the last evening of festivities before the actual day of Epiphany and the Christmas season officially ended (“Twelfth Night”).  The twelve days of the Christmas season have festivities each day, and at the beginning of the celebrations, a person is chosen to play the Lord of Misrule, who is in charge of the Christmas festival, which allows men and women to relax their traditional roles and the regular order of things is reversed, or turned upside down.

In other words, the townspeople take on the opposite role of who they are in social status and sex.  For example, a peasant is chosen to be the Queen for that evening, and the Queen is then disguised as a peasant.  Women can dress as men and vice versa.  There are masquerades and pantomimes in these festivities.

lord of misrule epiphany

The Lord of Misrule’s reign ends at the end of the evening on the eve of Epiphany, or the twelfth night, and then all social statuses and traditional roles return to normal (“Twelfth Night”).

Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night depicts the reverse in gender roles and social statuses and shows how these changes cause disorientation and anxiety for some of the characters involved in romantic relationships (Shakespeare 641-69).

In Twelfth Night, the protagonist, Viola, disguises herself by cutting off her long hair and dressing in male clothing which makes her nearly indistinguishable from her twin brother, Sebastian, who she believes drown in a shipwreck that washed her ashore only days before.

Because of the culture in which Viola lives, she must mask her womanhood in order to secure a job to support herself since she has no living male relatives to take care of her.  She thinks of this as a temporary occupation until she decides what she will do with her life as she still mourns the loss of her brother.

When she becomes the young page, Cesario, to the Duke Orsino, she quickly falls in love with him and is left in a terrible position of hiding her feelings for him to continue to support herself financially.

The duke is in love with a countess named Olivia.  His love is more of an infatuation, and he enjoys being immersed in the feelings of falling in love.  He sends Viola/Cesario to pass on his loving words to Olivia. Because of Viola’s beautiful way with words, she attracts both Orsino and Olivia.

Orsino is naturally drawn to Viola/Cesario because of the feminine traits she unintentionally exudes.  An example of this is when Viola/Cesario talks about love from a woman’s point of view. When Orsino asks what she knows about women and love, she says:

  Too well what love women to men may owe:

  In faith, they are as true of heart as we.

  My father had a daughter loved a man,

  As it might be perhaps, were I a woman,

  I should your lordship.

                                                                        (2.4.116-20)

When the Duke asks of the daughter’s history, Viola continues by saying:

  A blank, my lord.  She never told her love,

  But let concealment, like a worm i’th’bud,

  And, with a green and yellow melancholy,

  She sat like Patience on a monument,

  We men may say more, swear more:  but, indeed,

  Our shows are more than will; for still we prove

  Much in our vows, but little in our love.       

                                                                        (2.4.122-30)

Through Viola/Cesario’s perception of a woman’s love, Orsino ponders this and is drawn to Viola/Cesario (Shakespeare 652).  Likewise, in Viola’s personal awareness as a woman of what words move women, Olivia listens to Viola/Cesario and is drawn to Viola/Cesario instead of the duke.

olivia from 12th night painting

(Olivia from Twelfth Night painted by Edmund Leighton)

Olivia had sworn off men because of the recently double loss of her father and brother within months of each other.  She is left alone with no male guardian much like Viola’s situation, but Olivia is left financially well off in a beautiful house.  She had kept herself veiled and closed off from men until that time.  With the knowledge of how women think and respond to certain words and tones in language, Viola/Cesario is able to persuade Olivia to come out of mourning and consider the duke. But the countess also notices Cesario, and falls in love with him specifically because of Viola’s personal understanding of what women like to hear (Shakespeare 656).

Olivia’s steward, Malvolio, masks his true feelings for her, as well as his belief that he is above his current station in life.  He is disillusioned with self-importance and puffed up with arrogance and conceit.  This is revealed when he is in the garden before finding the letter Maria, Olivia’s gentlewoman in waiting, forged claiming Olivia’s love for him.

Malvolio sees himself marrying Olivia, saying, “To be Count Malvolio” (2.5.36).  His pride paves the way to his belief that he can marry the lady he is serving, saying, “There is example for’t; the lady of the Strachy married the yeoman of the wardrobe” (2.5.40-1).

malvolio in yellow stockings

Malvolio dresses in outdated yellow stockings and fixes up his hair as if he is a young man, believing from reading the contents of the letter, that this is how Olivia wishes him to present himself to her, which only succeeds in making him look like a fool.  Olivia questions his health, if he is feeling all right.

Malvolio ends up locked inside a dark building–the nasty work of Sir Toby and his cronies.  They claim he’s gone mad.  Through humiliation and discovering the truth–Olivia does not love him (Shakespeare 669)–Malvolio learns he cannot be someone or something he is not and leaves his position at the Countess’ house.

When Sebastian shows up at the grounds of Olivia’s house, she mistakes him for Cesario.  But soon, both Sebastian and Viola are standing across from each other, and they are moved by seeing each other, as their sibling bond is very strong.

Viola reveals she is indeed his sister, and because of Sebastian’s being alive, Viola is able to tell who she truly is, which brings about relief, joy, and love Orsino has developed for his young page, and opens the door to Sebastian and Olivia’s new love for one another.

Since Viola and Sebastian are not of lower class, such as those of servants and pages, this makes their relationships with the duke and countess more socially acceptable in the Elizabethan era.

In Shakespeare’s plays, The Taming of the Shrew and King Henry the Fifth, the theme of relationships threads through and is the crux of the storylines.

There is camaraderie between King Henry and his men in fighting France, which he illustrates in his speech on St. Crispin’s Day by saying, “We few, we happy few, we band of brothers” (4.3.60). But there is also disloyalty and betrayal by three of his soldiers, one of which is one of his closest friends.

katherina and bianca

In The Taming of the Shrew, the display of the caustic relationship between Katherina and her sister, Bianca, is because of her jealousy of Bianca, in the beginning of the story when Bianca says, “Is it for him you do envy me so?” (2.1.12).

Additionally, Petruchio treats his wife, Katherina, as if she’s a mere pet to be controlled when he says, “My falcon now is sharp, and passing empty; And til she stoop, she must not be full-gorged, For then she never looks upon her lure” (4.1.181-83).

Throughout the play, their relationships show a lack of love but do turn in that direction for Petruchio and Katharina by the end of the play, once their masks of scornfulness are removed (Shakespeare 358).   Overall, their love is much more rough and defiant than Viola and Orsino’s.

In contrast to the loving sibling bond between the twins Viola and Sebastian, sisterly love is not totally repaired at the end of The Taming of the Shrew when the sisters switch their attitudes in which Katharina becomes obedient and Bianca does not (Shakespeare 358).

A contemporary example of the type of romantic relationship between Viola and Orsino is reflected in the 1958 movie, Houseboat, with the characters, Tom Winters (Cary Grant) and Cinzia Zaccardi (Sophia Loren).

Cinzia is an Italian woman from an upper class/wealthy family, for whom her father is a symphony conductor.  Feeling trapped under her father’s thumb and the stifling society of the rich, she escapes while her father is in the middle of a concert for which Tom and his three children are attending.

houseboat pic

At a fair nearby, Cinzia bumps into Tom’s youngest son, Robert, who also runs off feeling trapped, still dealing with the recent death of his mother (Tom’s ex-wife). Eventually, Cinzia returns Robert to Tom’s hotel room, and there is a misunderstanding on who she is and where she came from, and she is mistaken for a woman of lower class and a domestic servant. She accepts this incorrect assumption and pretends to be a nanny and a maid in order to stay away from her own life troubles.

As the story moves along, Tom has an attraction to Carolyn, his ex-wife’s sister, while Cinzia has fallen in love with him.  In the end, Tom does not agree to marry Carolyn, and has fallen in love with his nanny/maid.  He doesn’t know until the end of the movie that she is the daughter of a wealthy family (Variety).

Both Cinzia and Viola mask their true identities and fall in love with the men they serve, pretending to be someone and something they are not.  In the late 1950s in America, women had a bit more independence and freedom. They could obtain an education and were not forced into arranged marriages.  Women could also work outside the home. However, the jobs available were more stereotypical female positions, such as nurses, teachers, and secretaries, which paid less than men in the same jobs.

In present day, women have the freedom to choose who they wish to marry, can go to any college they want, and pursue whatever job they wish, for the most part.  Unfortunately, they still do not make the same income as men, generally speaking.

sisters from frozen

In regards to the sibling love of Viola and Sebastian, an example in contemporary society is the 2013 movie, Frozen, with the sisters, Anna and Elsa (Konnikova).  Their bonds are very close.  Of course, these are two sisters in comparison to a brother and sister, but the relationships are similar because of their devotion and deep love for one another.

Sebastian’s return from the dead gave Viola the strength and ability to reveal herself because with the realization that her brother was alive, she, once again, had a legitimate guardian and backing from a male relative so crucial in the culture in which she lived.

In Frozen, Anna, through her sacrificial love for her sister, saved Elsa from being killed by Hans.

In the same sense of sibling protection, Sebastian saved Viola from having to endure any more pain of love unrequited and masking her true identity.  As a result, Viola and Orsino’s loving relationship moved forward, and her unmasking gave way to the new loving relationship between Sebastian and Olivia (Shakespeare 665-68).

Modern sibling relationships are similar to ones from Shakespeare’s era, but women who have brothers are not reliant on them for their care.  They are able to be independent and care for themselves. Also, women today aren’t perceived as weak emotionally and physically by most of society.  Nevertheless, brothers are still considered protectors of their sisters in today’s society, and that’s okay with most sisters.  They appreciate their brothers’ looking out for them (Hall).

Shakespeare’s works have endured over time. Until his plays, there was little written and studied on the emotions and minds of people.  In his plays, Shakespeare revealed what it means to be a human being through the trials and joys of the relationships between people that his audience and readers up to the present day can relate to (Kotula et al.).

In literature, characters come to discover something about themselves and those they interact with.  Shakespeare displays this beautifully through Twelfth Night, for example, when Viola acknowledges her feelings for Duke Orsino, saying, “Yet, a barful strife!  Whoe’er I woo, myself would be his wife” (1.4.42-43).

Through the varied loving relationships in Twelfth Night, the revealing of a person’s true self and being oneself garners the love of others and the realization of who and what one is not.  Shakespeare’s works show the importance of love, friendship, loyalty, and sacrifice that are still relevant today.  Relationships require trust and loyalty, and these can only happen through honesty to oneself and to others.  These traits in relationships endure over the history of humanity.

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